35. How far can me and
my girlfriend take kissing until it's a sin?
I have a girlfriend. We've been dating for quite a while. I have
a question want to ask you. How far can me and my girlfriend take
kissing until it's a sin? (Mike)
Mike. You put me in the spot here…Yes, as you might have thought
about it, kissing, by itself, is not a sin. It can be a sacred
thing. St. Paul, in one of his letters to the church, encourages
his "saints" to greet one another with a holy kiss.
tell you the truth, I've been skimming over the Catechism of the
Catholic Church and the Canon Law to see if the Church says anything
about kissing, but to my surprise I've found none so far. I then
ask some of the priests in the house for their opinions and one
said kissing would be alright except kissing on the lip or on
the mouth… But I then found two scripture passages which say:
"kiss on the lips who makes an honest reply." (Pro.
24:26), and "let him kiss me with kisses of his mouth."
(Sg 1:2) So, I challenged that priest to see how he would explain
those scripture passages. He then went on explaining to me what
he meant was a "French kiss," or a passionate kiss.
That is, a kiss that sexually arouses oneself. And he said that's
more thing, Mike, I believe that we all have the principles of
the moral law, which are written in the conscience of every person.
Basically, it means "do good and avoid evil." Therefore,
not just only kissing, but in whatever you do, if your conscience
trouble then that is when you need to stop and think about it.
I want to share with you a line from a friend of mine. He said,
"If you can kiss in front of your parent, then that kiss